5 New Years Resolutions from a Therapist

How to Achieve Inner Peace and Flourishing in 2019 We all know New Years Resolutions don't work. Getting sweaty at the gym on the daily, eliminating soda consumption, or keeping a surplus of cash in the checking account at the end of every month are all lovely goals, but the problem is we tend to … Continue reading 5 New Years Resolutions from a Therapist

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What is the “Sinful Nature”? Part 2

In Part 1 of this 2-part series, we acknowledged how awkward it is to talk about sin in a culture like Los Angeles where evangelical Christians are already seen as despicably judgmental, vile creatures. Many Christians these days, including pastors, seem to prefer to omit the word “sin” from their vocabulary because of the negative … Continue reading What is the “Sinful Nature”? Part 2

What is the “Sinful Nature”? Part 1

People fascinate me to no end, which I guess is one reason I decided to become a therapist. The problem is, that while we as people have our aspects of indescribable beauty, we are also marred by some really ugly ugliness. I’m wrestling now as to how to share my heart with y’all - today’s … Continue reading What is the “Sinful Nature”? Part 1

4 Things to Know About Human Nature

What drives us?  In November of 2017, Devin Kelley walked into a small church in rural Sutherland Springs, Texas, and shot and killed 26 parishioners. Though all of the mass shootings grip my heart, this one especially shocked and horrified me, because I grew up in Northeast Texas. The slaughter of men, women, and even … Continue reading 4 Things to Know About Human Nature

How Shame was Born: A Theological Perspective

Peter Scazzero’s Awakening In Emotionally Healthy Spirituality, Pastor Peter Scazzero shares his story of growing up in an Italian-American family. Ever pushing himself and his family, Peter’s father's greatest goal for his children was that they go to college. Dad’s workaholic bent left Mom alone to raise Peter and his four siblings. During those years, … Continue reading How Shame was Born: A Theological Perspective

I am, am I? Therefore I Worship – by Chris Camareno

by guest author Chris Camareno, also known as my husband. Originally posted on Tempest Index. Worship is an interesting concept. It’s almost foreign to modern minds. We typically assume it is something anachronistic, practiced by the ancients to fictional gods. Or maybe it’s what religious people do on Sundays. If you’re a Christian, you might … Continue reading I am, am I? Therefore I Worship – by Chris Camareno

Symptoms vs. Root Cause

The Annoyance of Symptoms Our feelings often produce pesky symptoms, like inability to concentrate for a depressed person, constant hand-washing for an OCD sufferer, or nail-biting for an anxious person. Symptoms like these can cause secondary irritation for the person who is already suffering psychologically. At their extreme, the symptoms in and of themselves can … Continue reading Symptoms vs. Root Cause

Are You and Your Spouse Incompatible?

Take Your Marriage's Pulse Take a quick moment to assess the current state of your marriage. On a scale of 1-10, how would you score these 13 areas: Closeness Communication Sexual intimacy Spiritual Intimacy Emotional safety Feeling respected and valued Teamwork Trust Conflict resolution Friendship/Fun Finances Parenting Negotiation of household tasks Maximum score is 130 points. How did … Continue reading Are You and Your Spouse Incompatible?

“The New Science of Romantic Love”

For many of us, marriage feels hard and communication is confusing. We're mystified and distressed by the messages coming from our spouse. Do People Really Fall in Love in Mysterious Ways? For generations, we have been perplexed, befuddled, and stumped by what it is that makes people fall into and out of love. In Western culture, … Continue reading “The New Science of Romantic Love”